The New Me. By Kirsty McKenzie AKA @themummysomniac

I am so pleased and super lucky to be featuring the gorgeous Kirsty McKenzie AKA @themummysomniac for the second time on my blog. Kirsty is a dear Instafriend that I have been lucky enough to meet, and she has helped to guide and support me through my #mumlife journey and with my lifestyle in general. This woman has a heart of gold and is not afraid to share her trimaphs and failures (argh girl thats what I love about you). In my first interview with Kirsty, she shared answers with you all in depth about herself in my #showtherealyou segment (you can read here). This time she has returned to share with you all this raw piece of writing about how she found a new love for her body during her current pregnancy with baby number three. Wow mummas this is a must read for you all as I know you will be able to totally relate with Kirsty no matter what stage you are at with your self love journey. Enough from me, time to hand it over the beautiful Kirsty McKenzie. Arghhh I know you will love this piece as much as me.

Kirsty Mckenzie AKA @themummysomnic

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As my very first (ever) stretch marks began to emerge, somewhere throughout my first pregnancy, I’m afraid to say, I cried…

I don’t think for me, that it was vanity. I struggle with change, or at least I have at times in the past (even chopping my mum bun off recently took some serious commitment). I think for me, simply, it’s hard to see something you’ve become so used to seeing, your own body, change so rapidly. After all, I had become accustomed to my pre-pregnancy body slowly changing over the previous 27 years. Yet the changes that we experience during pregnancy are over but a fraction of the time that we had with our bodies before. After a while, I accepted the changes (stretch marks and new outie belly button to be precise)… even grew to be fond of them. After all, they represent one of my greatest accomplishments in life, my eldest daughter. And believe me when I say ‘accomplishment’, the kid didn’t sleep until she was 3.5, it’s amazing that I’m even half as sane as I am.

When the time came for baby number two, I thought I was prepared for the changes. Yet like each child, each pregnancy can bring with it a whole different set of challenges. My first pregnancy, like my first child, was set out to take me to places that I’d never been before (awake all night… and not voluntarily like in my youth). To push me to let go of the things that I need to, and focus on what’s really important. My second child, like my second pregnancy, came forth to show me just how much I was really capable of pushing things (mind, body and spirit). Just when I thought I had it all sorted out, thought I’d adjusted my headspace accordingly, and knew what to expect, the second child came along to throw all of it on it’s head. To push me to my limits, and to show me just how far my mind and body could stretch, and just how much love I was capable of. There were elements of my second pregnancy, that felt easy, in the sense that I had been there before, I knew the morning sickness would end, that eventually all babies sleep through the night, and that labour is in fact the easy part… and that the hard part is what happens when you bring the baby home. But there are no two pregnancies that are exactly the same, not even for the same person… now I know.

Kirsty 39 weeks pregnant with baby number two. 

Kirsty in labour with baby two.

I bounced back physically from my first pregnancy without any real issues, but my second pregnancy had pushed my body to the extreme, literally (10cm abdominal separation). It saddens me to say, that again, when I dared look in the mirror at my body, a mere 6 weeks later, still looking six month pregnant, I felt complete and utter despair (again I cried). I thought I knew what to expect, but this took me completely by surprise. I threw myself into the chaos that was my life as a mum of two, 19 months apart, and tried to forget. Yet, eventually, bit-by-bit, everything returned to normal, or what would become my new ‘normal’. Some time, patience and a lot of hard work, I recovered, not back to the old me, but to a new and improved me. I realised how amazing, and strong my body was.

Kirsty at 3 weeks and then 6 weeks postpartum, after baby two.

Kirsty 15 months postpartum baby two.

Kirsty 39 weeks pregnant and 39 weeks out
 

I think I had taken so much for granted in the past, but seeing how I’d brought it back (after a very long uphill climb), gave me an incredible appreciation for it.
Fast-forward almost exactly 4 years from the appearance of those very first stretch marks, and I’m sitting fat and happy at 26 weeks into my third pregnancy. I’m not sure what it is, whether it’s having been through some tough times, a little bit of age and maturity, or simply having finally worked out what’s worth worrying about in life, but I’m excited about it… about everything (Ok, still incredibly nervous about pushing a baby out of my hoo-ha, that part doesn’t change). I’ve never felt more comfortable (not so much physically, because we all know that pregnancy has the uncomfortable factor, but in the mental sense) in my own skin. To me there’s something about my pregnancy body that fills me full of life again (literally). There’s a confidence there that I don’t normally possess, a sense of pride and self love that I wish I could feel all the time. Not only have the old marks reappeared, the ones placed on my body by this baby’s two older sisters, but some new ones too. It might sound strange, but in some ways these marks are truly welcomed. Each of my children has left their mark on me, in so many ways. I’ve changed the way I approach life, I’ve learned to stop fighting unworthy battles, to accept what I cannot change, to work with the new me, instead of trying to go back to the old me. I don’t need the old me back, she’s not relevant anymore… her way of thinking, her body, her outlook (I would welcome her sleep habits back though)… because the new me, is so much better.

Kirsty 15 weeks pregnant with baby number three.

Kirsty 23 weeks pregnant with baby number three.
I’m definitely interested to see what my new body will look like after baby number three. I don’t know what to expect, I have to let it all go, and leave my expectations in the same drawer as the pregnancy tests I took (Is it just me, or does anyone else struggle to throw those things away?). I have no idea where this pregnancy will go, but for some reason, at this point (ask me again in another 10 weeks), I’m pretty cool about that.

Wow, thank you so much for sharing this piece of your thoughts with us. I love that you have found this new love and respect for your body and you are helping others do the same without even realising. Want more from this babe? Follow her journey on her Instagam – @themummysomniac and check our her blog http://www.themummysomniac.com/

Kirsty at 25 weeks with her current pregnancy with baby number three.

Candice Williams -The Working Mumma #showtherealyou

I had a few weeks off from the #showtherealyou segment on my blog, I really missed it. I love that I get to interview women around the world that we can all relate to or learn from. Not only do the woman I have featured, inspire me daily to be the best version of myself , but they teach me that it’s okay to fail as long as you pick yourself back up and work hard to chase your dreams. 

This week I choose to feature a dear (Insta) friend of mine – Candice Williams AKA @theworkingmumma. I followed Candice, after she would continuously write kind, meaningful words on my posts daily. She constantly lifted my spirits when I needed and I would see her spreading continuous encouragement to other mummas and fitness bloggers that I followed. She has a huge heart and she bares all across her social media platforms. 



I love watching her journey, I know you will to. 

Here is my 10minutes with Candice…

Firstly, can you tell us more about your Instagram name Instagram and how you chose it? I love it, I think it totally suits you. 



Oh thanks! Well when I decided to a blog, this name instantly came to me. ‘The Working Mumma’ describes me and what kind of mummy I want to be. Before having William I worked 60-70hrs per week, slowing to a 35-40hr week at 33weeks pregnant because I fainted at work and my DR requested I ‘slowed down’ so working is important to me and I am lucky that I absolutely love my job. It also describes what my blog will be about one day too.



Can you tell myself and my followers a little about yourself and what your page/blog is all about? 



Well, I am a 27 (nearly 28!) year old who’s from Melbourne, I absolutely love the beach and would LOVE to move to Queensland one day, even just for a year. I love the sunshine and hot weather. One of my favourite places to visit is Port Douglas, I have been there upwards for 20 times in the last 14 years. I am a first time mummy to a beautiful little man, William who I call turtle. I am recently engaged so I am adding “party planner” onto my job description! I am a nurse and LOVE my job. I often find myself dreaming of overseas holidays, I want my family to be well travelled. I am a people person, but also have anxiety, so I am either really out there or quiet depending on how I am feeling. Family is so important to me and I want twins one day! Anyone who knows me knows my obsession with Nikes, Disney and the rainbow.

My blog right now is about my journey from pregnancy to motherhood but ultimately what I wanted to show with it, is that I CAN be a mum and work at the same time, I want mums to know that if you have a dream, you can achieve it. No matter what your dream is, don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do it, I had SO many people kept telling me while I was pregnant that I couldn’t have both of labels, career women and mother, so my goal is to show that you can. You can do whatever it is that you want and be a great mummy too. I will share how I juggle my life, the triumphs and the down days. And to keep sharing my life as a mother because I love the supportive mummy community that IG offers. It is honestly amazing.




As a busy mumma what is your go to workout? How often do you find the time to move your body? 

I have the Ashy Bines Booty Program app on my phone and that is my go-to workout! I love it because I can do most of them at home! I aim for 3 workouts per week and 3 walks per week as well. I would LOVE to do more but I don’t want to put too much pressure on myself and set myself up for failure. I try and do 1 or 2 yoga sessions a week as well, for me, moving my body is essential to keep my mental health in check.

Favourite activewear? 

Hands down – Lorna Jane! I walk into her store and just want one of everything! My goal for my work out wardrobe is to have one in every colour of the rainbow of tights, crop tops and singlets, my fiancé thinks I am crazy, and he’s probably right! I am obsessed with Nikes as well!



When you are having a rough day, what do you believe helps you to pull through? 



Good questions because today is one of those days! I actually wrote a blog about how to cope with a bad day not long ago. I find the best way to cope is to have acceptance that it is happening, I then just keep telling myself that the day will end, he will eventually settle and everything will be ok again. I also throw all the rules of being a mummy out of the window, if he wants to be held all day – fine, if he wants to watch tv on the couch with me – fine, if he wants his breastmilk in the bottle instead of from the boob – fine. Anything goes when having a bad day! Reaching out to other mummy friends for support is also a great way to cope and get through it.


Favourite quote or mantra? 

You can’t keep doing the same things and except to get the same results.”

This has been essential for me and my personal growth. It’s so important to re-evaluate all aspects of your life, if something isn’t making you happy or you’re not getting the outcome you want, you need to find out why. I have, at times, really needed to reflect on myself and see that I need to change my plans, change my eating, change my attitude, whatever it may be, to get the result I am after.
Never look back” is another one. I actually have a tattoo of this on the back of my leg. It got my through a really tough period of my life when I hit rock bottom personally and needed to pull myself back up. I had to stop looking back on my past – I couldn’t change it, I had to keep looking forward.

Do you ever get a chance to share date night with your man? If so where do you go? 




Yes I do! Ever since Will was about 2 weeks old we have been having date nights. I LOVE spending time with just Kyle and I, we really enjoy having a few hours away from Will. It makes us such a better parents, better people and allows us to feel like the ‘old’ us again. It gives Kyle and I a chance to reconnect and gives our parents some bonding time with the baby. Kyle and I have grown so much closer since having Will, we feel like a new couple just starting to date again. I was told that a baby changes your relationship and luckily for us, it has made it 10 times better!

Proud mumma moment since Having william? 



When he learnt how to giggle! The day he learnt how to giggle, I sat on the floor with him for a good 2 hours sitting there laughing with him, I have never felt so proud in my whole life!


Something you do for yourself? 



Working out! I love exercising and I use it as my time to unwind and get all my frustrations out. I am always happier when leaving the gym, it also makes me feel accomplished and that I am nailing mum life! I also feel guilty about going and spending money or doing other things for myself – mother’s guilt bah! But going to the gym not only benefits me, it benefits my family and it will one day show William a healthy way of living.

Who inspires you? 



My 3 best friends inspire me. They are 3 very different, but totally amazing and beautiful people; one is a business owner and she inspires me with her achievements and dedication to her profession, one is a mother of 4, she is the best mother you have ever met and she is also working really hard to start her career and the other is a intensive care nurse who is just doing amazing things in the nursing field, she is also the most kind hearted person I have ever met. They say that you become who you are because of the people you surround yourself with, so I am pretty lucky!
Ashy Bines and Chontel Duncan inspire me as well, they are hard working business women, they want to help people, they live and breath healthy living and appear to be such beautiful women, they are my working momma crushes!

Dream job? 



I want to own my own business one day, I have done a post graduate degree in cosmetic nursing and would love to open a business doing Botox and Fillers! I’ll get there eventually – watch this space


Love Candice as much as I do. 

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